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Memorials - 'Forgiving and forgetting'

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AGE: Secondary

THEME: Memorials - 'Forgiving and forgetting'

PREPARATION:
This presentation uses the very moving story of a disaster at sea during the Second World War to reflect on how our memories affect our attitudes to those who have harmed us, and how one survivor's faith has influenced her approach to life.

Photographs are provided to print on to OHTs.

Photo 1: Bess's brother, Louis, and two of his friends after their rescue. This photo was taken aboard HMS Hurricane by Lt Surgeon Peter Collinson. Bess's brother died in his fifties but Bess is still in touch with the other two survivors.
Photo 2: A recent photo of Bess.

BACKGROUND:
Early in the Second World War, the British Government ran an overseas evacuation scheme. By 1940 about 3,500 children had been taken to safety in homes with volunteer host families for the duration of the war. The children went to Canada, the USA, South Africa, Australia and New Zealand.

The City of Benares was a passenger liner of 11,000 tons which left Liverpool for Canada in September 1940 with 500 on board, including 100 evacuee children and their escorts. Five days out from England, and six hundred miles out to sea, it was torpedoed by the U-boat U-48. Of those on board the ship, 325 were drowned, including most of the children. Many of the survivors were picked up by HMS Hurricane. After this tragedy, no more children were evacuated abroad under the scheme.

On September 17th 2000, the 60th and last Memorial Service for the Lost Children and Reunion of the Survivors of the City of Benares was held in London.

DEVELOPMENT:
September 1940. A beautiful, fast and elegant ship sets sail from Liverpool bound for Halifax in Nova Scotia, Canada. She has a crew of 203 and 191 passengers, including 100 children aged 4 - 15, and is in convoy with 19 other ships. The children are sad to leave home but they are being sent away from the very real dangers of war. Most of the children had already experienced such dangers - five children in one family had been bombed out of their home only the night before.

One fifteen year old girl, Bess Walder, boards the ship with her younger brother. She takes up the story:

"Once on that lovely ship we all had the most wonderful time. We quickly made good friends with one another, the weather was good, we played all kinds of games on deck, enjoying the gorgeous food that we had not been able to have at home because of rationing. It was like being on holiday and the days went by like a beautiful dream."

Despite the dangers, everyone was having the time of their lives. They did lifeboat drill and knew what to do without panic in an emergency. Four days out, with the City of Benares still going at the speed of the slowest ships in the convoy, the weather suddenly changed.

"On the night of September 17th, fierce gale-force winds had whipped up enormous waves; heavy swells and rainstorms. By 10 o'clock most people had gone down to their cabins and the children were fast asleep after a rather tiring day. At about 10.30, with the storm still raging, a huge and terrible explosion occurred, causing enormous damage in the ship's hold and the area below the cabins where the children were sleeping.

The ship had been hit by a torpedo from U-boat 48. The German submarine commander had been tracking our convoy for some time, and chose this moment to attack the largest ship in the convoy, The City of Benares. All the other ships in the convoy now quickly dispersed. This is exactly what all convoy vessels had to do at this stage in the war at sea, to save themselves from being attacked by the same submarine. There was nothing they could do to help and they were forced to leave the stricken ship to fend for herself. Crews aboard those ships were appalled and distraught at having to leave The City of Benares. But their ships' captains were already moving their vessels away from her. She was in a helpless state and listing very badly... she began to sink very quickly.

From a lifeboat that was already waterlogged, and would soon overturn; like many others, I watched her sink. It was a shocking sight to see this lovely ship go down to the ocean floor. It is still etched on my mind today, as it will be on those of all who saw it happen. A nightmare scenario."

In the night and day that followed, with waves and troughs made worse by the sinking ship, there were many acts of heroism including those by HMS Hurricane. Some adults were saved but only 14 children, three of whom later died. Miraculously on September 25th six young boys and a few adults, drifting alone in the Atlantic in an open boat, were spotted by the crew of a Sunderland Flying Boat.

Even more miraculously, of very few children who survived the disaster with Bess, one was her brother!

Sixty years on, Bess and other survivors have just held their last service of remembrance in a London church. How do people deal with memories such as Bess and her co-survivors have had to live with? This is what Bess said at the service:

"We, who were saved, have had to come to terms with a problem of forgiveness. To forgive those who did so much harm to so many people and who have left a trail of misery and horror in their wake is not easy, and to obey Christ's teaching on forgiveness when we say the Lord's Prayer is still, for some, greatly difficult in this context.

Sometime after the war I spoke to the wireless operator of U-boat 48. He told me that when they found out that the ship had been carrying children, many of the crew broke down in tears. Some of them, especially family men, left the submarine service later as a result of the sinking. He said that their consciences were greatly troubled, long after the event. He hoped that we would find it in our hearts to forgive them.

As child survivors... we have each had to tackle in our own way the ethical issue of finding out how to forgive... Forgiveness can be very beneficial to the soul, reciprocal and helpful in healing deep wounds of the mind. It sometimes has to be a long process, one that may never quite be completed. It can continue throughout one's life. But never does it preclude forgetting."

PRAYER AND REFLECTION:
LEADER:  Even after 60 years, forgiveness has not meant forgetting. Although 2000 was the 60th meeting of the survivors of the City of Benares, and they have decided not to hold another annual gathering, each person will still have their own memories and be together in spirit with the other survivors and those who died on that stormy night.

In a few moments of quiet, let's remember...
Those who have died in conflicts, especially children and other innocent civilians... (pause)
Those who have survived, who have to live with painful memories... (pause)
Those whose memories make it difficult for them to forget the wrong they have seen and suffered... (pause)
Ourselves, when life brings us suffering that takes up our thoughts and makes forgiveness hard... (pause)

And let us pray for the spirit of forgiveness that helps memories become memorials, a thanksgiving for people that we have loved and lost.

If appropriate, use the prayer written by Bess Walder herself:

'Lord God and tender Father of us all, we are still your children just as we were when we set out on our dangerous journeys over the sea so long ago. At this very special time of many remembrances, we ask that you accept silent prayers for the children and their escorts of The City of Benares, who were lost at sea, but were taken up into your divine care. We, who have survived our journeyings through life, pray for them and remember them now.'
Amen.

MUSIC:
La Mer by Debussy.

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